AtypicallyRecovering

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When I returned to the University of Illinois after the winter break, I limped through emotionally, and things quickly became critical. I was still freaked out about being on academic probation (not in my perfectionistic vocabulary), and very depressed. I thought I was falling everything. I wasn’t thin enough, I was evidently very stupid, and I didn’t see any way out that would end well. And the idea of ‘ending things’ was what finally broke me down. The therapist I’d seen the semester before finally heard me say something besides “I don’t know”. What she got was “I want to die.” and followed up with my plan that would have been lethal, and cause trauma to other students on my dorm floor.

She called the university fire department to take me to the university health center for ‘holding’ until a bed could be secured at a psychiatric hospital near Chicago. The health center was for fairly minor problems or routine surgeries like appendectomies, and I guess for students who were being sent elsewhere. I was at the university health center longer than anticipated because of a severe February blizzard that made traveling to get me not possible. I wouldn’t go with my parents, so a family friend and her daughter came to collect me as soon as the roads were passable. During those days, I didn’t eat and had my jeans and shoes highjacked to prevent any ideas of ‘escape’. At that point, I was too tired to put up much of a fuss, so I sat there while dorm friends came to say their goodbyes. It was horrible. The staff were all very pleasant, but those goodbyes were SO hard. I didn’t want to leave, but knew I couldn’t stay.

When I got to Forest Hospital in Des Plaines, IL, my worst scenario played out. I hadn’t figured on my parents needing to sign me in since I was on my dad’s insurance. I felt I’d failed them, and was so ashamed. We did the obligatory hugs through their absolute denial and disbelief, and I went onto the locked adult unit, scared shitless that I was entering “One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s s Nest” territory. Instead, I found some very 70s floral wallpaper, a TON of cigarette smoke (like clouds), and people with all kinds of diagnoses from depression to raging schizophrenia and hyper manic bipolar disorders. I was the youngest on the adult unit, and terrified. Fortunately, my roommate was in the ‘mundane’ depression category and not scary, so that helped. There was one patient there for the rest of her life after falling out of a 2nd story window some years before, and ending up with a severe brain injury. She was a ‘constant’, which in itself was very sad. She wasn’t that old.

The first thing my psychiatrist did was ban contact with my parents for a month, to figure out why I was so opposed to seeing them. He also started me on the first of many medications, when I just needed food. I’ve never been depressed or suicidal without being very malnourished, but that realization wouldn’t come for several years. So, I settled in to the hospital routine. My folks came to family group sessions with other families and patients, but never really understood the purpose. Dad’s comment was “the sandwiches were nice”. Great, Pops, that was the goal, said no-one ever.

The dietician was easy to deal with- too easy. I talked my way into an 800 calorie/day meal plan. The chef (yup- a chef) at that place was incredible, and being a private hospital before insurance companies decided to play doctor without licenses, the food budget was first class. Prime rib, duck (yuck), shrimp, salad bar, and desserts with honey (no refined sugar). For someone who was afraid to eat, it was a minefield. But, it was also good food, and for someone who grew up being restricted by my folks before I took over that behavior, it was great when I finally allowed myself to eat something.

I was not so well-behaved when I was being monitored for food intake. When I had to eat on the unit vs the dining room, I’d switch out the meal cards so that I got some huge salad for a patient on a weight loss plan, and gave him my double portions. That was figured out fairly quickly… the diet guy wasn’t complaining about my donations, but the staff were not amused. Then they started me on Sustacal (now called Boost), and I poured most of it into the potted plants. That didn’t smell so great after a few days. One day, I tried to go AWOL, and hurdled the gardener’s wheelbarrow, with the gardner still attached at the handles, and got about 50 yards away before passing out on the sidewalk. I was half carried, half dragged back to the adult unit, in a haze of iffy blood pressure. Early on, I spent a fair amount of time in the quiet room (dumb name when one of the patients was in there screaming at all hours), and even in leather restraints, which was a common practice back then. I had small enough hands to get out of the straps, so then they just medicated me with heavy duty meds before leaving me in there, and peeking in the little window every few minutes. It was definitely a different kind of education. My psychiatrist never discouraged the acting out, because he sensed that I was a bit too tightly wound for “normal”.

I went without eating anything for 2 weeks, and ended up in severe ketosis that was bad enough that one of the nurses smelled me from just walking past me in the hall. That bought me a seat by the nurses’ station desk while they pumped me full of orange juice and toast. My mouth was so dry that the toast literally stuck to my mouth.

Bulimarexia was a term used back then for what would now be either anorexia, bulimic sub-type or EDNOS (atypical anorexia). Because of my laxative abuse, and the thinking at the time (early 80s), any purging was put into some kind of bulimic category. I didn’t binge like a lot of binges were described at that point, and if I hadn’t purged, the food I did consume would not likely have caused much weight fluctuation. But in my head, any unplanned ‘diet friendly’ foods were binges, so had to be ‘gotten rid of’. I didn’t vomit (tried, but I wasn’t any good at it), so laxatives were my purging preference. For some reason, I thought that was more ‘dignified’ than vomiting. Both are pretty disgusting. I also did a lot of running in place in my room, and when that was discovered, I spent about a week in the day room being supervised around the clock. I had to sleep out there in slightly dimmed lighting and the fog of 24-hour smokers. I ended up starting to smoke there.

The staff were kind to me, and my psychiatrist was also a decent sort. I can’t say much was resolved with the eating issues, but they kept me alive, and with food, the depression lifted. I was still on meds, but I think that the food did more good than the meds ever did. I was released after 3 months.

I planned to return to the camp I’d worked at the previous 2 summers, though only for half of the upcoming summer season to avoid too much pressure. My former camp supervisor had visited me while I was at the hospital, I’m guessing to be sure I wasn’t drooling in a corner somewhere, and he was satisfied that I was still the same person who was harmless, but had crumbled the year before when I became anorexic at the same camp. It was hard being there that summer since I wasn’t in the nature center, but because I was going to be there for only 1/2 of the summer, I was assigned to be a cabin counselor. I guess that was a compliment since they were turning me loose on actual kids and not the snakes and goofy ferret. It was still good to be doing something I loved, it got me away from home, and people didn’t treat me like defective goods for having been hospitalized.

But all was not well….